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How to Optimize Your Offsite: Connection

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If your offsite isn’t focused on building employee connections between attendees, then all you’ve done is move your office to a hotel for a few days. 

While I’m sure the office chairs appreciate the time off, one of the most important outcomes from any offsite is forming bonds between colleagues. I know it can be hard to directly measure connections between coworkers, but we’ve all seen the benefits to business impact when teams trust each other. Employee retention goes up, which is especially important these days. Projects get done faster, partly because there’s more cross-department collaboration. Even bureaucracy gets streamlined. 

When you foster valuable connections at your offsite, you can reap the benefits once those office chairs are back on the clock. These connections are born from vulnerability, so your offsite needs activities and experiences that promote openness and the confidence required to be vulnerable in the first place. Based on experiences I and other event planners have had, I came up with five approaches — below — for easily and effectively creating connections through shared vulnerability.

Ben Hindman, Founder & Head of Event Strategy, Splash

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1. Building Connections with Storytelling

A 5-minute story can tell you more about a coworker than years of chit-chat in the break room. Get us telling stories, especially about ourselves, and we’ll bond together just like audiences form connections with their favorite movie characters. 

Why? Because stories create empathy by making audiences see the world through another person’s eyes and experiences. The more we understand and empathize with our coworkers, the stronger the connections between us become. Understanding our teammates are the building blocks that lead to accomplishing our goals together better and faster. Here are some thought starters for using storytelling to increase connections during your offsite. 

Examples of storytelling activities:

  • Have everyone tell a true story about themselves. For 7 minutes. Talk about vulnerability, huh? Add in a few minutes for reflections and reactions from others, to increase bonding.
  • Tell attendees to bring an item of meaning and talk about it. Artifact sharing is kind of like the grown-up version of show n tell (up to you about scheduling nap time too).
  • Ask folks to talk about someone they enjoy partnering with at work (or in their personal life) and why. This one reveals a lot about personality, work style, and more.

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2. Building Connections with a Child-like State

Remember that “child-like” doesn’t mean “childish.” The goal here is to be free of pretense or judgment, not immature. As adults, it can be hard to let loose and be silly. We rarely have the space and time to do things just to do them, without an agenda. There really is a sense of vulnerability in letting go and just being a kid again.

The idea here is to lose touch with our rational minds and just be in the moment. If you can get participants doing instead of thinking and creating purely for the sake of creation, then they can enter a more open state of mind at your offsite. 

Examples of freeing, child-like activities:

  • Go for laughs with an improv comedy class. Improv’s magic comes from being in the moment, saying yes to what’s happening, and building it together.
  • Play some games that aren’t usually adult-friendly. On the milder side, there’s hide n seek or dodgeball. On the wilder side, food fights are always on the menu .
  • Lean into left-brain creativity. Ad-hoc costumes? Macaroni self-portraits? Free-form finger painting? Embrace the silly.
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3. Building Connections with Chattable Moments

Making the right connections starts with being in the right environment. It’s a big reason why this is an offsite away from the usual office vibe, after all. Sitting two people down and demanding they TALK NOW usually doesn’t lead to productive conversations, especially if these folks don’t know each other yet.

Help attendees feel their freest by creating chat-friendly activities and spaces, including a mix of cozier spots for just a few people and places where groups can mingle. Shaping the environment for your offsite will lead to more meaningful and connected conversations.

Examples of chattable activities:

  • Go on a hike. The moderate physical activity (and less direct eye contact) will loosen lips. Just in case, it helps to have prompts ready to spark conversation topics.
  • Break out into smaller groups so everyone has more opportunity to express themselves. Keep topics loose and see where the conversations lead.
  • Build in time and space for chill moments, like smaller discreet areas with movable seats.

4. Building Connections with Passions

You know how you can’t help but smile when hearing someone get happy and excited about something? Every person in your organization is passionate about something, and that enthusiasm is contagious. Unearth these passions and you’ll find everyone is drawn into the conversation and eager to participate.

Maybe some colleagues are passionate about the latest programming language. Others can’t get enough of cooking. Personally, I’m big on science and roller skating, myself. Whatever inspires and drives us, it’s powerful to capture these feelings and share them with each other.

Examples of passion-centric activities:

  • Have everyone create a photo-driven PechaKucha slideshow in advance and spend 20 seconds talking about each slide to provide context about what inspires their passion. 
  • Build full days themed for each persons passion
  • Play “Common Ground”: Everyone stands in a circle and steps in when they agree with or have in common with someone’s prompt. 

5. Building Connections with Collaboration

Just because you’re planning the offsite doesn’t mean you have to do it all alone. In fact, having attendees contribute during the planning phase helps increase their sense of ownership and connection with the upcoming event itself. Who wouldn’t want to attend a party they’re helping to bring to life?

Start bringing in others early and solicit input and help from as many team members as possible. A great offsite experience is a gift, and giving gifts feels great, so allow everyone the opportunity to share in that feeling.

Examples of collaboration activities:

  • Host an “un-conference” by inviting employees to program the offsite. This can be a freeing and vulnerable prospect for everyone, including you and the bigwigs.
  • Conspire together (in a good way!) to plan a surprise at the offsite. Secret happy hour, a heartfelt celebration for a key person or team, whatever floats your sneaky boat.
  • Coordinate small ways each person can contribute to the offsite. Give folks options, from potluck lunch to sign making to taking turns at the welcome station.

Infuse Your Offsite with Connection

True connection requires vulnerability, and being vulnerable can feel scary. As a fellow planner, I know you might be hesitant to ask your team (and yourself) to be vulnerable. If something goes wrong, people could get upset. 

Like the time I organized a dodgeball tournament and someone came up to me afterwards because she was mad at me. She cried while telling me how the event conjured up challenging middle school memories for her. When I started apologizing to her, she stopped crying and let me know that ultimately, this was a good experience for her because the dodgeball tournament gave her an opportunity to explore long dormant thoughts. In that moment of vulnerability, she was able to talk with colleagues about what she was feeling and lean on others to work through it. As a result, this woman went from being vulnerable to being more connected to her coworkers than ever before.

While vulnerability is scary, you can create spaces where it’s safe to be vulnerable together. To help with that, I suggest making vulnerability-focused activities opt-in only so no one gets caught unaware. It also helps to actively facilitate non-judgmental and supportive reactions. Because if your offsite is a safe place to be open with each other, the connections that form can reach across the entire company long after the free beer runs out.

P.S. For real, don’t forget the free drinks. Those are super important. Name tags, too.

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